To the sisters who’ve wept until their eyes were dry, to those with parched throats and lost voices in the crowd, to those who believe there’s no way out – this is for you.
Dear sisters,
Before we delve into this heartfelt message, let’s begin with a dua for each soul to finds solace in these words. I firmly believe in destiny, not coincidences – you’re here at this precise moment for a reason. May Allah mend your broken hearts and bestow His goodness upon you in this life and the hereafter. My love for you extends for the sake of Allah, with hopes that one day we may rejoice together in Jannatul Firdaws.
The journey through constant sadness, unending tears, and the struggle to alleviate heartache is a shared experience. The wet pillow, the concealed smile, and the days dragging on while awaiting relief from life’s burdens are not unfamiliar. Whether it be grief, injustice or heartbreak, turning to Allah is my sincere advice. His kindness, though challenging to articulate, transcends words.
Allow me to share a personal narrative. At 15, I lost my grandmother and my world stopped turning. Despite trying lots of different therapies, the void persisted. Eating and vomiting became a daily ritual, feeling the injustice of living without her. Urged by my mother, I turned to Allah, praying two rak’ahs one day. The cold room transformed into a warm embrace, and the prayer mat became my sanctuary. I am far from a perfect Muslim, but even as a sinning servant, Allah comforted me in indescribable ways.
Trusting in Allah (Tawakal) was my greatest challenge, akin to jumping into an ocean without a life jacket. Reminding myself of Allah’s greatness bolstered my trust. The parted sea for Prophet Musa (AS), the salvation of Prophet Nuh (AS) – all orchestrated by Allah. Quranic ayats became my solace during moments in which I contemplated leaving this world. The Quran is for you and me, my beautiful sisters.
“If God helps you, none can defeat you. But if He denies you help, then who else can help you? So in God, let the believers put their trust.” – Surah Imran
Ladies, confidently jump into the ocean, assured that Allah, the Almighty, will catch you. Don’t let Shaitan gaslight you – he’s a big hater!
How can we attain the help of our Lord? Through acts of worship. Consistency in salah became my therapy. Speak to Allah after prayer; the signs are everywhere. This hadith exemplifies how Allah is the best of friends:
“My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him.” (Hadith 25, 40 Hadith Qudsi)
Emphasizing Allah’s beautiful names is crucial. Imagine our mothers, who would endure pain rather than witness our tears.
Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA) reported a poignant Hadith by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) which stated: Allah is more merciful to His servants than a mother is to her child.
Increase acts of worship through dhikr. Salawats upon Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and istighfars are potent. Allah’s forgiveness brings abundant rain, wealth, children, gardens, and rivers.
In times of anxiety, remember: “there will be no fear concerning them, nor will they grieve” (Quran 2:38). Obey Allah, and fear not for the future. Our deen is the answer to many problems. Closeness to Allah makes life easier. Your body is an amanah; prioritise mental well-being. Be kind, forgiving, and envision tomorrow as the best day. I pray Allah opens every door for you. Seek medical help if needed – there’s no shame. Care for your mental health as you would a physical wound; your body has a right over you. Fulfill that right and flourish.
Sumaya A